As the lady at the Walgreens came up to me and said “wow you have such a great tan…” I thought to myself how many times have I heard this? I know she was just being sweet and complimentary but living in an environment of always being one of the only ones in the room with a different skin color makes you always feel like a bit of an oddity. You try it on is what I tell so many people… just imagine yourself at six being taken from the United States and sent to India where everyone looks nothing like you and you are the odd one out. Your skin is lighter than everyone(they all want lighter skin, just the reverse of here) and people always look at you as different and ask you where you are from. Picture yourself living your life without people who look like you at all. You never see anyone that you can see similarites with your eyes or your hands because no one on the continent you are living on is blood related to you…it is hard to imagine but this is what children who are adopted deal with from the moment they know they are not like everyone else. Remember, you can look at your mom, dad, sister or whomever and see similarities and find your identity in that but we adoptees are often looking at parents and sometimes siblings who look absolutely the opposite of us and also a world of people who look nothing like us!
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