First Christmas in America
Humanity places great importance on what we don’t have in the moment.
As adoptees we have enormous pain and suffering through those things we don’t have anymore; the mother, the father, the culture and that which we had no choice in changing. Everyone seems to want what they don’t have in the moment. The white person wants the tan, the dark Indian wants lighter skin, the poor want riches, the rich want more , the Obamas want a dog, and my adoptive mother wanted a child for Christmas(that is what she got). When we don’t have it then we sink into wishing and hoping or sadness and depression. No amount of sadness or hoping brings those things closer…my wishing doesn’t ever bring me to India to see my mother.
I grab for that one little piece of me daily that might bring me closer to what I am missing but in turn end up missing the beauty of what is presently here to enjoy in my life. Is this not truly the essence of human life? To be happy and find that joy, love and peace with our present life? The challenge is to not allow the past pain to affect us as if it is currently happening. To find joy in the depths of darkness and difficulty is living fully. The present is truly a gift.
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